New book from Sabrina Zohar,
Host of The Sabrina Zohar Show
Meet your
bullshit
blueprint
A no-BS guide to understanding why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, and how to rebuild your life around self-trust, boundaries, and conscious choice.
Available October 13, 2026 · Hardcover, Ebook & Audiobook
Why the fuck do you need this book?
Why I wrote this?
I was the poster child of a hot mess.
I was the girl that couldn't get her shit together. I kept repeating the same patterns over and over again and saying,
I don't understand what is wrong with me. Why am I like this? Why do I keep doing this?
This book is chock full of psychology, neuroscience, personal experience, and most importantly, stories you've never heard before on the podcast that are the innermost workings of my heart and my soul. I put everything on this page for you.
Because if I can figure it out, then baby, so can you! You fucking got this and I'm by your side through it all.
xx
— Sabrina
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Hardcover
Hold it. Highlight it. Dog-ear every page you need to read twice. The one you leave out on purpose.
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Ebook
Read it everywhere. No one needs to know you've been rereading the same paragraph for 20 minutes.
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Audiobook
Hear it in her voice. Your car, your commute, your earbuds. Press play when you're ready to stop pretending.
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Meet Sabrina Zohar
I'm not here to make you feel good about your patterns. I'm here to help you understand them and actually do something about it.
I spent years repeating my own cycles in dating and relationships before I started talking about them out loud. No filter, no spin. My audience grew to millions before I knew it, not because I had all the answers, but because I was willing to be honest about the questions everyone else was thinking and nobody was saying.
Today I host one of the top 0.05% podcasts globally (The Sabrina Zohar Show), I coached thousands of people to come back home to themselves, and have written the book I wish existed when I was in the middle of it. It won't tell you the bullshit you want to hear. That's kind of the point.
5.2M
followers across social media
650k
monthly podcast listeners
2,000+
clients coached back to themselves
100+
situations survived
(so you don't have to)
It's time to do the fucking work and they agree!
A powerful guide to recognizing your patterns, reclaiming your worth, and redefining your standards for love.
Jay Shetty
#1 New York Times bestselling author
and host of the On Purpose podcast
Why Am I Like This? is the kind of book that makes you feel deeply seen. Sabrina Zohar captures the anxiety, overthinking, self-abandonment, and relationship patterns so many people struggle with, and explains them with honesty, humor, compassion, and real emotional intelligence.
Jillian Turecki
New York Times Bestselling Author
of "IT BEGINS WITH YOU"
This book made me wish for a do-over, for my 20-year-old self to have this wisdom… Thank you, Sabrina, for fostering compassion for our messy selves that just want to be loved, by allowing us to peer into the hearts, hurts, and hope of not only you, but the people you have shepherded back to themselves.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula
Psychologist Author, It's Not You
Why Am I Like This? is the kind of book that makes you feel deeply seen. Sabrina Zohar captures the anxiety, overthinking, self-abandonment, and relationship patterns so many people struggle with, and explains them with honesty, humor, compassion, and real emotional intelligence.
A powerful guide to recognizing your patterns, reclaiming your worth, and redefining your standards for love.
This book made me wish for a do-over, for my 20-year-old self to have this wisdom… Thank you, Sabrina, for fostering compassion for our messy selves that just want to be loved, by allowing us to peer into the hearts, hurts, and hope of not only you, but the people you have shepherded back to themselves.
Inside the book
Seven chapters.
Zero fluffs.
This is the shit that's actually going to change your life.
It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility to do something about it baby.
Intro
I used to be a hot f*cking mess.
Introduction
I Used To Be A Hot F*cking Mess.
Soaking Up the Programming
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
Building Core Beliefs
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
Triggers: Your Body Keeps the Receipts
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
How Your Patterns Follow You into Your Relationships
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
Choose Yourself, No Matter the Fucking Cost
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
It's Time to Let That Shit Go
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
Beyond the Bullshit: What Healing Actually Looks Like
How your attachment style, childhood wounds, and core beliefs quietly run the show in every relationship.
“A powerful guide to recognizing your patterns, reclaiming your worth, and redefining your standards for love.”
Jay Shetty
#1 New York Times bestselling author and host of the On Purpose podcast
Why Am I Like This?” is the kind of book that makes you feel deeply seen. Sabrina Zohar captures the anxiety, overthinking, self-abandonment, and relationship patterns so many people struggle with, and explains them with honesty, humor, compassion, and real emotional intelligence.
Jillian Turecki
New York Times Bestselling Author of “IT BEGINS WITH YOU”
"This book made me wish for a do-over, for my 20-year-old self to have this wisdom... Thank you, Sabrina, for fostering compassion for our messy selves that just want to be loved, by allowing us to peer into the hearts, hurts, and hope of not only you, but the people you have shepherded back to themselves."
Dr. Ramani Durvasula
Psychologist and New York Times bestselling author of It’s Not You
FREE BONUSES BEFORE OCTOBER 13th
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But wait, there's more!
As a thank you, you get two freebies, one today and one on October 13th.
The Pre-Order
Workbook
The workbook before the work
21 pages of prompts and exercises built around the book's core ideas. Download it now, start before the book even arrives.
The Companion
Course
The work, on your own time
The book gives you the answers. The Companion Course makes sure you actually do something with them. Video lessons, deeper dives, and no "just communicate better" advice.
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