New book from Sabrina Zohar, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show

Meet your

bullshit
blueprint

A no-BS guide to understanding why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, and how to rebuild your life around self-trust, boundaries, and conscious choice.

October 13, 2026

Hardcover, ebook & audiobook narrated by Sabrina · 304 pages

available worldwide

“Why Am I Like This? is the kind of book that makes you feel deeply seen. Sabrina Zohar captures the anxiety, overthinking,
self-abandonment, and relationship patterns so many people struggle with, and explains them with honesty, humor,
compassion, and real emotional intelligence.”

Jillian Turecki

NYT Bestselling Author · It Begins With You

Why the fuck do you need this book?

Do you keep repeating the same patterns?

Do you spiral when someone doesn't text you back?

Do you always feel like you're "too much"?

If this sounds like you, you're not alone, and you're definitely not broken. These frustrating patterns are survival strategies your body learned to keep you safe, but they're also keeping you from the things you truly want.

Pre-order your copy from

Get the Hardcover

304 pages

Hold it. Highlight it. Dog-ear every page you need to read twice. The one you leave out on purpose.

Ebook

Instant download

Read it everywhere. No one needs to know you've
been rereading the same paragraph for 20 minutes.

Audiobook

Narrated by Sabrina

Hear it in her voice. Your car, your commute, your earbuds. Press play when you're ready to stop pretending.

Available worldwide

“A powerful guide to recognizing your patterns, reclaiming your worth, and redefining your standards for love.”

Jay Shetty

#1 NYT bestselling author · Host of On Purpose

This is the shit that’s
actually going to change your life.

Inside Why Am I Like This, you’ll learn:

The bullshit blueprint

The unconscious programming that's been picking your partners and running your reactions without your permission. It was written before you were ten, and you've been following it like a map
ever since.

The seven-word question

Sabrina asks every single client, and asked herself in therapy first. Her honest first reaction was total defensiveness. Yours will be too. That's how you know it's the right question.

Why you cry when they
ask for a night alone

and seethe over mild feedback at
work, and why that's not you being "emotional" or "sensitive."

Why you can have an actual
note in your phone

listing every reason to leave… and still open the door when he shows up at eleven p.m. with takeout.

Where the pattern hides
outside your love life

Are you dimming your light in front of co-workers, friends, and family and
can’t figure out why?.

What your new
blueprint gets built on

Self-trust, authentic expression, and conscious choice, and why understanding your past is only the very beginning of healing.

“This book made me wish for a do-over, for my 20-year-old self to have this wisdom… Thank you, Sabrina, for fostering compassion for our messy selves that just want to be loved, by allowing us to peer into the hearts, hurts, and hope of not only you, but the people you have shepherded back to themselves.”

Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Psychologist · Author, It's Not You

Buy the book before October 13th and you get two things nobody else does.

Your Bonuses

#1

Free with pre-order

The Pre-Order Workbook

The workbook before the work.

21 pages of prompts and exercises built around the book's core ideas. Download it now, start before the book even arrives.

#2

Unlocks October 13th

The Companion Course

The work, on your own time.

The book gives you the answers. The Companion Course makes sure you actually do something with them. Video lessons, deeper dives, and no "just communicate better" advice.

How it works

Pre-order
Why Am I Like This? at any retailer

Upload your
receipt using the form.

The workbook hits
your inbox immediately.
The course unlocks October 13th.

Is it October 13th yet?
No, but we're getting there.

If I Can Fix My Bullshit Blueprint… So Can You.

I was the poster child of a hot mess.

I was the girl that couldn't get her shit together. I kept repeating the same patterns over and over again and saying, I don't understand what is wrong with me. Why am I like this? Why do I keep doing this?

This book is chock full of psychology, neuroscience, personal experience, and most importantly, stories you've never heard before on the podcast that are the innermost workings of my heart and my soul. I put everything on this page for you.

Because if I can figure it out, then baby, so can you! You fucking got this and I'm by your side through it all.

xx Sabrina

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Why Am I Like This? about?

Why Am I Like This? is Sabrina Zohar's guide to the "Bullshit Blueprint"; the unconscious programming behind repeating relationship patterns. Across seven chapters, it combines psychology, neuroscience, and Sabrina's own story to show where your patterns came from and how to build a new blueprint based on self-trust, authentic expression, and conscious choice.

When does the book come out, and in what formats?

October 13, 2026, everywhere books are sold; hardcover (304 pages), ebook, and audiobook narrated by Sabrina herself. It's available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bookshop.org, Target, Walmart, and most major retailers.

How do I get the pre-order bonuses?

Pre-order from any retailer before October 13, then upload your receipt on this page. The Pre-Order Workbook arrives in your inbox immediately; the Companion Course unlocks on launch day. Any format and any retailer counts.

Is this book a substitute for therapy?

No, and Sabrina says so inside the book, in exactly those terms. The tools come from her work as a coach and her own lived experience, not from medical training. If you're in crisis, feeling unsafe, or having thoughts of harming yourself, put the book down and reach out to a licensed therapist, a crisis line, or your nearest emergency room first.

Who is this book for?

Women and men who keep ending up in the same relationships and reactions no matter how much they've read, listened, or analyzed. You don't need years of therapy behind you, and if you have them, this is the book for the part therapy explained but didn't change.