Meet your bullshit blueprint

Why Am I Like This?
Is the no-BS guide to why you repeat the same relationship patterns and how to finally break them.
Available October 13, 2026









Unfiltered, no-BS dating and relationship advice
that actually works.

You've done the therapy. You know your attachment style.
You've listened to two hundred podcast episodes. But that last
relationship? It still ended the way they always end.
baby,
It’s time to get this shit figured out for real.



A certified dating & relationship coach since 2022
and I’ve been where you are…
and here’s my no BS prescription. You need:
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"Sabrina Zohar captures the anxiety, overthinking, self-abandonment, and relationship patterns so many people struggle with, and explains them with honesty, humor, compassion, and real emotional intelligence."
Jillian Turecki,
NYT bestselling author, It Begins With You

Why Am I Like This? Is the no-BS guide to why you repeat the same relationship patterns and how to finally break them. Out October 13, 2026, in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook.
I was the girl who couldn't get her shit together: same patterns, same ending, same what is wrong with me on a loop. This book is the answer I finally dug up. The psychology, the neuroscience, and the stories I've never told. The patterns you repeat are not your fault, but they are your problem… and if I can figure it out, so can you.
“This book made me wish for a do-over, for my twenty-year-old self to have this wisdom, but it’s never too late! Thank you, Sabrina, for fostering compassion for our messy selves that just want to be loved, by allowing us to peer into the hearts, hurts, and hope of not only you, but the people you have shepherded back to themselves.”
Ramani Durvasula
PhD, Los Angeles

Millions press play because the show says what your group chat won't. Solo episodes that name exactly what's happening in your dating life: the spiral over a slow reply, the talking stage that goes nowhere, the same ending on repeat. Plus conversations with board-certified and licensed psychologists, neuroscientists and experts in the field. Clear, actionable, and free. Start with the episode that sounds like your situation. I promise… there will be one.
"This podcast has literally helped me out so much! Not only in the dating world but just in general… I've been able to do the work to be better and love myself through it!"
JenJen 709
Podcast Listener


It answers the question I get more than any other. Not how do I meet someone …. but why does this keep happening to me? One hour, the one skill nobody ever taught you, and what the people who finally found it did differently.
You've done the work on paper: therapy, podcasts, all of it, and the last three endings still looked identical. You don't need another explanation. You need the skill nobody taught you.
You're not messing around with books and courses anymore. You need the expert. Private, customized, one-on-one coaching for all. Have your relationship and dating situations... zero judgment.
I've done The Tamron Hall Show and Drew Barrymore, the LA Times and Newsweek, and I partner with brands my audience actually trusts. If your room needs a real conversation about modern love, let's talk.

Meet


I was the poster child of a hot mess. The girl who kept repeating the same thing with a different person and calling it love… asking why am I like this? like it was rhetorical. It wasn't. So I did the work. The messy, unglamorous, occasionally humiliating work.
Then I started talking about it out loud. I was running a clothing line at the time, and I just started sharing what dating was actually like for me. Millions of people said oh my god, me too. The podcast exists because people asked. The courses exist because there wasn’t actual help available. The book is everything I know, on paper, including the stories I never told anyone. All of it is here so you can stop asking why you're like this, and start doing something about it.


You don't have to have it all figured out… you just have to show up. Come to the class.
Grab my book. Press play on an episode. Someone out there is going to be really fucking
lucky to love you. Let's get you ready for them.

Sabrina Zohar is a dating and relationship coach, the host of The Sabrina Zohar Show and the author of Why Am I Like This?. She's coached over 2,000 clients and built an audience of millions by talking honestly about relationship patterns: where they come from, why insight alone doesn't change them, and what actually does.
The Sabrina Zohar Show is a weekly dating and relationship podcast hosted by Sabrina Zohar, ranked in the top 0.05% of podcasts globally with 650,000 monthly listeners. Episodes cover dating anxiety, repeating relationship patterns, breakups, and self-worth. There are solo episodes and conversations with board-certified and licensed psychologists. It's free everywhere you listen, with an optional ad-free subscription.
No, and she's the first to say so: "I'm not a therapist, and I'm not going to pretend to be one." Sabrina is a certified coach. Her work is educational and experience-based, developed alongside licensed psychologists, and it's designed to complement therapy, not replace it. If you're in crisis or don't feel safe, please contact a licensed therapist or a crisis line first. That comes before anything she could teach you.
Why Am I Like This? is Sabrina Zohar's book: a no-BS guide to understanding why you repeat the same relationship patterns and how to rebuild your life around self-trust, boundaries, and conscious choice. It publishes October 13, 2026, in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook (narrated by Sabrina), and is endorsed by Jay Shetty, Jillian Turecki, and Dr. Ramani Durvasula.
Love That Stays is Sabrina Zohar's signature six-week, self-paced course for building real love without losing yourself. It trains three skills: Self-trust, authentic expression, and conscious choice. Through short lessons and daily body-based exercises, students learn ways to change patterns that don’t change through insight alone.
Women and men who keep ending up in the same place no matter who they date: anxious over texts, stuck in almost-relationships, or watching another promising start end the usual way. Most have already done therapy or self-work and know their pattern. Sabrina's work is for the part that comes after knowing.
Start free: listen to The Sabrina Zohar Show, or grab a seat in her free class, The Last First Date. Ready to go deeper? Why Am I Like This? is the full foundation, Love That Stays is the six-week course that trains it, and 1:1 coaching is for when you want direct, personal guidance on your specific situation.